Men’s Programme Page

Is your partner afraid of you?

Do you ask yourself if you are violent or abusive?
If you have to ask yourself this question then you probably are.

Have you abused your partner or ex partner in any of the following ways?

Physical abuse

Hit slapped, pushed, grabbed, kicked, strangled, pulled hair

Threats or Intimation

Threats to your partner, punching walls smashing things, shout, swear at her

Jealousy or isolating behaviour

Trying to control who she sees, checking up on her, stopping her from seeing particular friends or family.

Emotional Abuse

Criticisms, put-downs, humiliation, ignoring

Using the children

Threatening to hurt the children, take them away, putting her down in front of them.

Sexual Abuse

Forcing sex or specific acts your partner is uncomfortable with, punishing or sulking if she refuses to have sex with you

Financial

Controlling the money, making her account for every penny

If you have used any of these behaviour toward a partner then you are being abusive, no matter how angry you feel it is never alright to hurt or scare your partner.

If you want to stop then SAFE can help you to change.

What do I do next?

You can contact the SAFE project on 01642 278518/01642 281290.

We will take your details and offer you an initial assessment.

The Womens Support Service will contact your (ex) partner to offer her information on the programme.
This is a different from your programme, which is there to help you change

All men who refer or are referred to the project are offered assessments to determine suitability for the programme. The service is free.

Initial assessment.

Our staff will carry out between one and three assessments to determine what changes you wish to make and whether the programme is suitable for you.

Criteria Include:

• Acknowledgement of abuse and or violence

• See violence/abuse as a problem

• Accepts some responsibility for violence/abuse

• Agree to the conditions of attendance

Whilst some of your behaviour may be related to feelings of anger this is not an anger management programme

The Programme.

We work mainly in small groups. If you meet the eligibility criteria you would normally be required to attend once a week and the session would last between 2 and three hours.

Abusive behaviour is behaviour of choice and the programme incorporates cognitive and educational approaches to challenge and change abusive and violent attitudes and behaviour. Acceptance onto the programme requires a commitment to attend the 30-week programme.

Building a respectful relationship is about ending violence and also other behaviour you use to control your partner.

Programme Locations

• Wednesday evenings Middlesbrough

• Thursday evenings Redcar